What is "Politeness"?

I will need to start thinking about teaching baby G manners soon. So I was thinking about polite vs rude. So I had a look at Wikipedia - as you do. It says that "politeness is the practical application of good manners or etiquette". Culturally-bound, and England and Japan are "especially polite". They haven't been to some parts of England, but that's not the point! Wikipedia also says that swearing can be considered positive politeness - but you can read all that yourselves, I don't have to repeat it! So what is politeness? Is it saying hello, goodbye, thank you? Or is it going the extra mile French style and adding Monsieur or Madame after your bonjours, au revoirs, mercis? Is it not speaking with your mouth full and not spitting? It is being courteous towards the elderly (whether related or not)? This is turning out to be a tricky issue. The culture is one aspect. G has mixed blood so she'll have to adapt to both sides. Call me old fashioned but I like men opening doors for me. Pulling the chair out for me to sit down / get up. Paying the bill at the restaurant. Heck, even kissing my hand! Equality of sexes I hear you say! Oh no, not for me, I like men doing things for me. I like being weak every once in a while. But never ever patronise me! I respect the suffragettes, I'm not saying that those times were good for women - I would have probably been one if I lived in those times. But I do like being spoiled by men... So back to my exam question. How should I raise G? I want her to be strong, but demanding (which doesn't appear too difficult for her already!). Polite in the English sense of the word to a degree, but also direct, outspoken. We shall see. And maybe next time I will tell that person who parks in the parent and child spot without having a child in his car that he needs to be polite and considerate!